The Positive Value of Negative Feelings
Each negative feeling brings with it an opportunity for growth.
All of our so-called negative emotions have some positive value. In the proper amount, each negative feeling helps us stay on course towards health and happiness. They do this by telling us when we are veering away from:
“Academic intelligence has little to do with emotional life. The brightest among us can founder on the shoals of unbridled passions and unruly impulses; people with high IQs can be stunningly poor pilots of their private lives.” — Daniel Goleman
How does emotion affect our lives?
Our memories are very tightly linked with our emotions. Typically, the more emotional something is for us, the more memorable it will be. If an event in our lives cause us to feel an extreme emotion, we will be more likely to remember that event.
Signs, Symptoms, Causes, and Effects
Modern life is full of hassles, deadlines, frustrations, and demands. For many people, stress is so commonplace that it has become a way of life. Stress isn’t always bad. In small doses, it can help you perform under pressure and motivate you to do your best. But when you’re constantly running in emergency mode, your mind and body pay the price.
Definition: Emotional awareness means knowing very specifically how we feel. It means being able to label our feelings with specific feeling words. At its highest level it means being able to predict our feelings in advance.
Our Psychosexual Story
Our lives hold many stories. We have a family story an educational story, a faith story, and a health story. We have a work story, a crisis story, and a creativity story.
We also have a psychosexual story. This dimension of our personal history involves the mysterious convergence of circumstances, events, experiences, and choices that have brought us to our present stage of integration or woundedness. Our psychosexual story contains all the moments of growth, excitement, discovery, pain, struggle, and questioning in our relational lives. (more…)